This is the simplest, most logical; most obvious truth- there is no such entity as self. There is no self at all, no nothing, but life flowing freely, all is one reality, one life. Life just IS.

It is so simple, that it's most difficult to see. Thinking that we all have a special separate self that is in charge of our lives it's nothing else, but unquestioned assumption. It's a core belief, through which a human sees life. The feeling of separation persists in everyday life, making one always stressed, depressed or seeking for more. There is deep constant feeling that something is wrong, that there is something to find out, that life is not full, not abundant, stressful.

Of course there is something wrong!
There is this feeling that something is wrong. It rises up from deep and keeps us searching for answers.

The answer is simple- there is no self! There never was. We are not doing anything in life, life is happening as us. There is no manager involved that decides what, when, with who, why. Life just happens, by itself, for no other reason. It's life alive. It's Life-ing.

The big question is how to see that there is really no self in reality at all.
If you accept this as a belief, without testing, nothing will change. You will have one more belief running in the system creating more conflicts than before. To see the truth of it you need to look.

Looking is also very simple- one just needs a clear intention to finally see the truth, no matter what distractions stand in a way. It's not scary, it is not magic. One just needs to start thinking for himself and answer some precise questions with whole honesty like never before. 

When you start looking first thing to do is clear the path. This can be done by writing. You can have somebody guiding you or just do it yourself! Take nothing for granted, question everything. There is nothing at all that you need to know to start digging. Just begin writing and clarify stuff for yourself. No one can do the looking for you. Don't even think about that.
(Don’t start just yet. Read the whole thing to the end, then start)

I came up with these steps as a result of seeing what really works for most people. 



Step 1
Clearing the path

Write this down.
There is no self at all in reality. No me that lives my life.
Watch, wait, notice, write- what comes up? Is there fear? Is there doubt? Resistance? Frustration? Something that wants to scream and make a turn away, something that says this is not working? Or maybe there is  wow, joy, relief?
Notice all that is going on inside and just put it down in writing.

Done? Ok. Bring all closer. Focus on fear.
What are those fears, what is resistance? Notice, that it's protection mechanism. The fear itself is like a door, it holds you from looking behind the door. It's just fear. It’s ok for it to be there doing it’s job. Just let it be there, acknowledge its presence, check where it feels physically in the body.
What is fear itself?
What is it protecting?
What needs to be protected?
Ask it to reveal why it’s here, what it is trying to tell you, ask fear to share it’s wisdom.
If there is no self, then there is nothing that needs to be protected. Right?
Honour the feeling. Bow to it, thank it for doing it’s job.
Now look behind.
Is there anything behind the fear?
What?


Done?
If you passed this stage and saw what is behind the fear, you are ready for the next step


Step 2.
Strip away all expectations.

What do you expect that liberation is going to be like?
What do you want from it?
How do you imagine a liberated human behaves?
What should it be like?
What you do not want it to be like.

Just write all this out and put it to rest for a bit. Leave all this behind and take a fresh look. If you keep clinging to your expectations, go back to the fear section and look what is behind them expectations.
All expectations, no matter what you expect are not what it is going to be like. Anytime you feel stuck, come back to expectations, if there is something that you think that should be happening, but it isn't- there is an expectation behind it.


Step 3
Get in touch with real

By real I mean that which exist, that does not disappear if you stop believing in it.


Imagine that you are holding a spoon. Imagine form, size, weight, temperature, keep it there, close your eyes, and feel the imaginary spoon.
Open your eyes; is there a spoon in real life?
So how did you see that there is no spoon?
What happened to the spoon?
Did it disappear or it never existed.
Notice, that there was no boom and no bright light flashes in the eyes. Remember this, shift is not going to be more than this, it’s just a drop of glue that holds the illusion together.

Look around the room notice what is real. What is here now? Notice things, notice body looking around the room. If you think that this world is not real, check it. Look at a hand, do you see atoms and space in between of a real, solid, warm hand that is here always attached to the body.

If I was to tell you that santa is real, would you see it in the room right now? Can you see the difference between real and imagined?
Self is imagined. You can look for the real self till your face turns blue, but it won’t be found anywhere in the real world. Look- can you find the self? Is it in a head? How does self give commands to the body then? by Wi-Fi perhaps?


Step 4
I is a thought. Thought does not think.

Opposite to what we have been fed since childhood, I is not a soul, it is just a thought. It is not a being, it is just a label. 

I think therefore I am- a famous statement proposed by René Descartes. The simple meaning of the phrase is that someone wondering whether or not he exists is, in and of itself, proof that he does exist – at the very least, there must be an "I" who does the thinking.

But let’s not believe what somebody else says and test it.

Close your eyes after reading this paragraph and find that which is always present. Feelings of aliveness, aware being-ness, ‘I am’ stay with the feeling. Is it personal? It feels personal because for all those years you thought that you exist as a separate being.  It’s a sence plus labelling of the mind “me”.

Look at thoughts:
Where do they come from?
Can you control them?
What influences thoughts?
Do you know what your next though is going to be?
Can a thought be stopped in the middle?
What do you know for sure?


Notice that thoughts come and go by themselves. They are just thoughts. And there is nothing that controls them, they roll one after another and there is no way to stop or get rid of them.  Like a river that is running freely.

Look at thoughts as the labelling mechanism. Experience happens, labelling follows. Noticing, observation, witnessing happens, labels pop right after.

Notice body breathing, look, is it breathing by itself of is there a breather? Label says “I breathe”. Is there an I that does the breathing? How about when you sleep? Does breathing need a breather?

Same with walking, eating, listening to music, dancing. Every experience is followed by “I did this” comment. But look closer; is there a walker, an eater, a dancer?
Play with the labelling for a bit, notice that label I is just a label, a word that precedes other words in the label. Right now reading happens effortlessly and if you just stop for a second, thoughts appear and start labelling………I is one of thoughts.  I read. Really?
Can a thought think? Can a thought do anything?
So if I is a thought and thought does not think, there is no thinker? Is it true?

Then I think therefore I am can be broken down to:
I is a thought itself
I does not think
There is no I
But thinking happens.
By itself.

Step 5
The Gate

There is no separate self at all in real life. 

Check it.
There is no you, look.
It’s good idea to get outside into nature. Watch animals, babies, other people. See how everything moves, wiggles, trees, grass, animals, birds, humans, the body that is here now.

Notice life, aliveness, notice how everything is happening effortlessly. Turn the focus outside. Notice how everything simply is. It's real. It's here, now, alive.

See how seeing just happens. There is no one behind the eyes, no watcher, no observer, only watching, observing happening in the present moment.  Mind is doing it's usual business of labelling experience and it is also just happening by itself without an effort.

If there is a doubt, notice that, look right at it, see it for what it really is- another mechanism of protection. Just that. It is just a thought that arises and passes away. Keep looking at the obvious. Focus. Is there a focuser? Or focusing happening?

You are seeing it already at this point, just a click in the mind that is needed to recognise this fully.
At this point there is nothing that you need or can do. Let it unfold. See that there is nothing that can do anything, admit, that. No one to let it happen.  It all just happens. It's all happening already- noticing, recognition, seeing.   There is no you, there never was, only life.

There are many traps here and you will need to focus hard. Everything that is not direct looking is a distraction from looking. Mind will be creating all kinds of distractions, but just remember to stare at the gate.

Gate is the best friend in this search for freedom. It's a sure one time crossing, once the truth is seen you cannot fall back into belief of separate being. Same way as you cannot ever belief that Santa is real in real life.

At this point please come to THE GATE Forum  where you can get help by our dedicated team free of any charge. Either you see it or you don't, don't let it just hang in there unresolved, there are some questions that will help to clear doubt and really see it.


Step 6
How does it feel to be liberated?

Has anything changed on the outside?

Does it feel different inside?

If you passed through the gate it becomes obvious, that there is no gate, there is no you and there never was. And you may be glad to see that seeking has dropped.

One thing for sure you are not going to hear angels singing and no boom either. It’s just like seeing an recognizing that there is no imaginary spoon. Just a drop of belief.

Step 7
Falling

Right, this is when it gets interesting.


Since the core belief has been busted, there will be a lot of lost beliefs. Imagine like a computer system, if you delete some programs, there will be some files left behind that will slow down the performance, so you usually clean it up. Defragment the system, tune it up.


And knocking the core belief out is like a tsunami to your system. It leaves a lot of rubble behind, lot of corpses to take care of. So what you want to do here is clarify and clarify more. Keep an eye on the truth, let them beliefs surface. They will come up one by one ready to be released. Don’t fight them and hold on to nothing. As soon as you start holding on to belief, idea, you get stuck. To unstuck, just let it all fall of. I call this stage “Falling” as all that is untrue, falls away, all that it is true, falls into place.


Some say it takes around a couple of months, but everyone is different. So there is no guarantee how long it will take for your system to reboot and rebalance. Faith in truth is your friend. Desire to get the last lie of your system is another friend as well as readiness to let go of everything that does not serve anymore.


Look close at the most precious beliefs that are close to the heart, in no touch zone. They are the ones that you really want to inspect up close. You will recognize them by feeling resistance. Follow resistance. It is here to let you know that another bit of lie is sitting somewhere waiting to be noticed.

When the sticking point is removed life becomes easier, until it has got a real sense of freedom, appreciation, effortlessness, trust and awe. And so on. There is freedom in every situation. There is freedom to express without feelings of guilt fear, being wrong. Freedom is not from negative situation, but within them situations. Life is no longer looked at through the lens of “me”. It’s wide open, ready to be explored.

Live, enjoy, pass the message.

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These are conversation with my friends that end up in the definite shift. You can really see how this works in action, notice how these people respond to questions and check inside. It's not about them, it’s about you.


You can download free book with few of these conversations in it as well as brilliant work of Elena Nezhinsky.
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The list of all conversations where realization happened.